You know those times when someone calls you as you are walking out they door and they ask, "Do you have a moment?" The moment they ask the question I think, "is a 'moment' really just a 'moment' or more like 5-10 minutes?"
Yesterday, just as my wife and I were headed out the door (my wife was already in the car) to go to dinner, a good friend (hi, Adam!) called me and asked if "now was a good time to talk."
Thinking, "is now a good time to talk" kind of like "do you have a moment?" I wrestled in my mind how to politely let him know that we are on our way out the door, while at the same time not wanting to be rude and cut him off.
So I responded with, "Well, my wife and I are about to leave for dinner, but.....um, what do you want?"
Sheesh. Could I have responded any more rudely?
It got me thinking about ways to sound less rude, but also have boundaries in situations like this to help prepare me for the
next time this happens. I came up with:
My wife and I are just headed out the door to go to dinner, so if it's a quick question, go for it. If not, can I give you a call later?
Honestly, I'm not 100% satisfied with that response. I feel like it ends with a negative - cutting off the person by telling them I can call them later. I could always reverse it:
My wife and I are just headed out the door to go to dinner, so if it's not a quick question, can I give you a call later? But if it is quick, yeah, go for it!
Hmmm, I think I like that better.
Can you think of a better way to respond?